Top 10 Reasons to No Longer Be Frustrated with Style

We are held under a microscope every time we walk out the door…or so the fashion editor wants you to think.  But, seriously, unless you are on the page ‘People of Walmart’, they really don’t pay attention.  Now, if you are standing before a group and presenting, how you dress can affect how they pay attention…wearing black will get no responses, because black is authoratative; or, wearing a navy jacket and khaki slacks they will never make eye contact with you because one’s eye goes to the lightest point and you sent your audience’s eye to your legs.  So, there are some dynamics as far as color and how we react to that.  However, for the most part we walk around unnoticed as far as someone saying, “Oh my, she (or he) didn’t read the latest issue of Vogue (or GQ).”  So, with that in mind, here is how to regain one’s sanity after being immersed in what is the latest and greatest style and we must ALL wear it.

10.  Throw away all fashion magazines you have in your house and vow right now to never buy another one.  Realize that what is the latest and greatest in fashion magazines is actually PAID ads.  Yes, the latest and greatest pays to be the latest and greatest.

9.  Do not watch music videos.  They are selling ‘sex’, regardless of what they try to say, ‘sex’ sells and they sell it very well in music videos.  No realistic clothing is usually used in music videos.

8.  Do not shop with friends.  They have their style and they will try to push it on you…not on purpose.  Just, be aware when you ask someone their opinion, it is their opinion, which translates to “I don’t like that, it isn’t my style and I wouldn’t wear it.”  Because it’s easier to say, “Ewwww.”

7.  If the sales associate hovers and tries to sell you everything on the shelf, don’t trust their judgement.  I have ONE sales associate in my town that will actually say, “Oh no, Ms. Smith, that is not you.  You will not like that.”  Or, “Ms. Jones, that just didn’t translate well when you put it on, let’s keep looking for the right thing for you.”  That is RARE.  Most, even in HIGH END stores/boutiques are there simply for the commission.  They are paid ‘Yes men’.

6.  Throw away all fashion magazines.  (Becuase I know you didn’t.)

5.  Stop watching any makeover shows.  I was asked to do a makeover show, as an image consultant.  And then I was asked to do the makeover column in the newspaper.  The reason, because both the reporter and fashion editor knew that I would keep the person in their color, body line, and personality.  One of my ‘go to’ hair colorist’s was also asked to be on a national makeover show.  Mind you, he is the BEST in the entire South (according to Vogue, an opinion of one of the editors); but they wanted him to PAY $10,000 to be on the show.  He declined.

4.  If the department store makeup associate puts 20 products on your face, do not buy any of them.  Sad to say many beauty products are simply up-sells.

3.  Be comfortable in your skin.  Do not let anyone dictate that only certain sizes are appropriate.  Our genetics dictate what we look like.  Some of us have sensitivities to foods that mess up our system.  Some of us have hormone issues.  Some of us have situations where we don’t ‘burn’ calories no matter what we do.  Some of us were skinny, and then woke up one day not skinny and changed nothing in our daily life except age.  You know if you are healthy, that snide remark or smirk from the high fashion world…smile back, it will drive them crazy!!!

2.  Be comfortable with your coloring and your personality.  Hot pink may be the ‘in’ color, but if you put it on and all of a sudden you have circles under your eyes, then Pantone can get over themselves!!  If your team’s biggest foe’s colors are bright orange and it is the ‘in’ color, then Pantone can get over themselves!!  (Both of those examples are real stories.)

1.  Smile.  Smile, because you threw out fashion magazines and now rule your own closet.  But, most important, you are on your way thinking for yourself.

 

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Perfection in all things?

Perhaps the most frustrating subject I have to address is when women do not feel that they measure up to the expected physical appearance that is expected by a bunch of people who are being paid a lot money to create a perfect ideal, and they, most likely, themselves do not measure up to that ideal. The movie “The Devil Wears Prada” was a prime example of people who live in a world that is not like anyone that really reads their magazine! I’ve read that the editor of Vogue magazine has a stylist come into her office every morning to do her hair. Seriously!!! And, you, the consumer are paying her salary by buying the magazine, which affords her the opportunityt to do so! And, if she really has a stylist coming into her office to do her hair everyday, when her hair style is such a simple style, what does that say about her abilities to even blow dry her hair?! Not so sure I’d want people to know I couldn’t take care of a simple style! Also, what does it say about her stylist? Her stylist is so inept in his/her own profession that he is unable to do a cut that the customer can do on their own at home? I work with the best in the business and they all do cuts that are easy to work, and they show the client how to do it before they even leave the salon!! So, what is the lesson we need to learn from this? It is that, this is all for show!!! It is to put oneself above others, knowing full well that few people can afford to have a stylist 5 days a week. However, there are those that will think, ‘Oh, my. I must do this, too!”

Folks, most of the fashion trends that are out there, or beauty trends that are out there are simply to sell you something. They really don’t care about the real person, or what the real person can afford and what the real person’s time constraints are, etc. They are out there to sell a product or service to make a buck. Yep. As much as they cry, “Oh no, I’m very compassionate! I care about what you look like.” They don’t. Don’t fall for it.

My husband and I were just talking about a shoe company that gives away a pair of shoes for every shoe you purchase. Given the price of the shoe….they aren’t being charitable!! They have a marketing dream!! Have the consumer buy our shoes because we advertise WE GIVE AWAY a pair of shoes for every shoe that is purchased. No. YOU, the consumer are BUYING a pair of shoes with each pair of shoes you purchase. If THEY were giving away the shoe, I guarantee that the shoe would be less expensive. Great idea, but they are a little misleading in their marketing because we don’t stop and think about it real hard!!

When I go into a cosmetic store to do a makeover, and they use 21 products on this woman’s face…a woman who is young and beautiful already, one knows for sure they are in it to sell products. They used six products alone on her eyelids! There isn’t enough eyelid to use six products!! We fall for it, we think that we are inadequate and therefore we buy it.

Ladies, think better of yourselves. Please!! I received a phone call from a friend of mine that is a makeup artist and she was beside herself. She had just a makeover done on The Today Show. They had chosen a lady from a small town in Utah. They dressed her in a short black dress and stilletto boots. What did Stefanee say, “Where in the world in a small town in Utah is she ever going to wear that again!” She went on to say that the lady didn’t even look that excited about the end result of the makeover. The problem with makeovers on television is that a company has paid them to use their clothes, makeup, and hair care/styling. And, the person doing the makeover is usually a Dramatic personality, who does not take into consideration what the person’s lifestyle and personality will dictate exactly how to do a makeover. I have yelled at the television myself, over some of the makeover shows! I had to stop watching them, the cruelty and the non-information given the women most of the time makes the makeover more of a glamour shot than a makeover. Meaning, a glamour shot is for the moment. A makeover is new way of doing things.

The makeovers that we have done, do not take the people out of their comfort zone. And, those who do not keep up their hair style mostly are because they could not afford to go back to the stylist that we used. However, in their own way, they have continued to follow the new guidelines that they were given.

Unrealistic expectations create women and girls that are damaged emotionally for life, and they miss out on so much happiness that could be. When a store announces that they only want skinny people to shop there, we know that our society has reached a new low. When a store chain decides that they want to sell their plus size stores to another company because they do not want to focus on the plus size market, we have a problem with our society. Please realize that all of these stores and companies are in it to make a dollar, they really, really do not care about your well being. So, when they say they do….they probably don’t. Now, there are exceptions, Dove soap is doing a wonderful campaign, and if anyone out there knows someone at Dove, please introduce us!

Ladies, you are of infinity worth. You are of a divine nature. Please take heed, and turn away from the fashion magazines and the fashion shows. And, when the article reads that Kim Kardashien’s baby fat is not pretty, but Princess Kate’s baby bump is darling…..well, it is an article you do not need to read. One can simply look at their differing body types and know right away that they are going react in their pregnancies in different ways. We simply cannot compare ourselves to others, we are unique and beautiful in our right. A young girl with large bones will never fit into the Size 0 dress and should never be made to feel she is of less worth than the girl that has a small bone structure. As both women move into adulthood, and eventually motherhood, they are going to continue to look different. That is a good thing, it is NOT a bad thing. Some of us have high hips and will never have a tiny waist, yet, weigh all of 100 lbs, or the same body shape will have large bones and no waist weighs 160 lbs. Some of us will have tapered hips, with a resulting ‘figure 8’ shape, however, that shape might be a size 0 on top, and a size 2 on bottom; or a size 10 on top and a size 14 on bottom! We can’t change our bones. Realize that, and wake up to the ‘fashion snobs’ that are trying to make you feel less of yourself because you cannot wear the latest style.

Yes, this turned into a rant, but I’ve just seen too many happenstances over the last few weeks that has just put me on edge and I had to release it all! Be you. Ignore media, ads, and magazines, especially ones that tout celebrities as the person to look like. YOU like YOU; you have your grandmothers eyes; your father’s eyes; your mother’s bone structure; and your great-great-grandmother you never met’s hair….and all should be celebrated!!