Fashion Purchase Off of Facebook

Shoes by Amazon and pants from Bryn Walker

I kept seeing the same posts over and over, Betabrand pants. I have a difficult time finding pants that fit well. I have a long torso, and I am the tallest for petite and the shortest for regular. I always have to hem pants. Hemming is not really a problem, the problem comes when the pants are too short waisted. I have not liked the style of the shorter waistline because it hits me lower than where it is supposed to hit. So, I am always on the lookout for the pants that come to the waist, especially if they have a longer crotch to waist measurement. I have several pairs of pants from Bryn Walker, and some from Chico’s. And, before I knew it, I was ordering a pair of Betabrand pants. They arrived and I put them on immediately. The fit was fantastic, except they are made for giants. I cut off more from those pants than any other pant I have had to hem! But, they also fit me very well in the waist. I was very pleased.

They were made of a heavy knit, and so I washed them and then dried them on delicate. And, then I put them on. Oh my! They were a bit more tight, and they didn’t quit reach my waist anymore. I thought, “They seemed to fit better than this…was I imagining how they fit??” Then. I. Had. A. Thought. I looked at the tag….’Hang to dry’. Well…they mean that.

The pants are not noticeably shorter. They are noticeably tighter, and noticeably shorter in the waist. However, I am hoping that as I lose weight they will bounce back up to where they belong. I’m thinking that they have actually shrunk width wise, not length wise because they are not shorter. So, I’m thinking that as I loose some weight in my stomach and behind, they will adjust themselves. Right? I can believe this….

End result…as long as you realize that they are made for tall people, and be prepared to hem them, they are a great pant. Oh…and do not introduce them to the dryer.

Suede Boots

Why is there a thing as Suede Boots?  Think about this for a minute.  My sister and I had this

Suede Boots from a place I have forgotten I’ve had them so long, LulaRoe leggings, Bryn Walker dress, leaves courtesy of Autumn trees.

conversation just a couple of weeks ago.  I have a pair of suede boots that I can wear within a short span of time.  They are too hot for half of the year, here in the South.  And, they are impracticable most of the rest of the year.  It is cold, and rainy in the winter time; if it does snow it is really ice and melts quickly and turns to slush.  Suede doesn’t like wet.  In fact, it despises it.  For one thing, if suede boots get wet, then your feet are going to get wet.  For a second thing, if suede boots get wet, then in many cases, they are ruined.  Sure, you can ‘brush it out’, but can you really?  The spot will still be visible in 99% of the cases.  So, why is there a such thing as Suede Boots?

Who looked at cold, wet weather and said, “Hey, you know what will go great with that!  Suede!”

For a long time I had suede pumps, and they were great.  However, I did have to check the weather report before wearing them!

Which now brings me to another question, when did rain cover ups for shoes go out of style?  And, why?  They were the most practical item that could be purchased to maintain your leather and suede shoes!  I had a pair of patent leather shoes in high school, and I wanted those shoes protected because they were so pretty and shiny!

Sometime in the 80’s it became ‘not cool’ to protect your shoes.  Hmmm, was this a ploy by the shoe industry to keep us buying shoes more often because they would get ruined?

A few years ago ‘rain boots’ became all the rage.  However, they are not coverups, they fit your foot.  So, you have to carry your shoes.  Oh, well.  At least those Suede Boots won’t get ruined while they are in your bag!

What is Joy? And, Why is it Important?

We have discussed joy. But, what is joy? Is it physical? Is it ignoring the woes of the world?

Joy is a state of being, derived from knowing the pure love of Christ, and exhibiting that in one’s life. This is why it is important. We are here on Earth to have joy, we are not meant to live an existence of unhappiness. There is unhappiness all around us, each and every day. How and why should we not let it affect us? For one, it should affect us. But, not to bring us down to the level of unhappiness. It should bring us up to action within our sphere of influence. The world will make us think that we cannot solve the world’s problems, then we have failed. The world wants us to emulate the depression ensnaring so many. However, even in the areas of the world with the highest levels of poverty there are people who are joyful, because they are not focusing on the negative of their world. Instead, they focus on family, faith, and the world that they can touch.

That is the key, touching the world within your reach. Knowing that you can influence those around you will bring joy to your life. We all have different talents, so we also cannot measure ourselves against someone else’s influence. If your influence if simple a smile to the discouraged, then that is your realm of influence. I have seen someone’s face light up when I have given them a compliment on their outfit, or shoes, or jewelry, or hair style. Simple things can go beyond measure, you will never know how you changed that person’s day, week, month, year.

During one of our makeovers I did for the newspaper, our adorable nominee was grinning so big the makeup artist was having a difficult time doing her makeup. A customer in the store walked by and commented, “You are so beautiful!” Our sweet lady then broke down in tears, sobbing. She looked up at us and said, “No one has told me that in years.” The simplest thing can change the world around you and bring you joy.

What is joy to you? Joy to me is my family; studying the scriptures; and prayer. These things bring me joy, and help me to overcome the world’s unhappiness, and hate. I touch my portion of the world through the avenues, and by listening to the Holy Ghost as he directs me to those that need uplifting.

Courage to be Joyful

What is joyful? It is true happiness coming from deep within. Satan doesn’t like joy, he wants people

to be depressed, frustrated, hateful, and the list goes on. Robbing us of our joy that is found in the gospel is how evil grows. Even when we have been wronged, actually or misconstrued, Satan digs it deeper within us making us believe that we cannot be joyful because we have been wronged. And, now we come to forgiveness as a part of joy. Forgiveness is NOT for the person, it is for us. Forgiveness allows us to find our joy.

What is the best way to find joy? That’s something that you will have to find yourself, but I do know that steps to joy are found in the gospel. There are just two simple things that we need to do to take the first steps toward joy.

First step, read your scriptures. I don’t care how long you do it, just do it. Read a chapter. Read a verse. Read for 30 minutes. Read for 5 minutes. You decide what is best for you.

Second step, pray. I don’t care how long you do it, just do it. Pray for one minute. Pray for five minutes. Pray once a day, in the morning. Pray once a day, in the evening. Pray twice a day, morning and evening. You decide what is best for you.

Third step. Just do it!!

I know this sounds way too easy, but these two steps a day will put you on the road to joy. All of the heavy lifting things will come later, but the foundation has to be built before you can start building. So, set aside that time right now for both prayer and reading scripture.

Ooh, this is the day that the Lord has made
Ooh, and I ain’t gon’ let it slip away

There is a song that you could listen to at least once a day, just to get yourself started! Joyful. We need to bring joy back into our lives, and not let anyone take that joy from us.

Courage to Like Yourself — My Answers

Just like Courage to Like Yourself, Physically, I am doing this exercise to emphasize the importance of this step!

  1. I am happy–and I do like to smile and uplift others. I am genuinely happy. I choose to be happy. I could find plenty to be sad about all the time, especially in our world today. However, I choose to be happy. I put my trust in Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. That lifts a large burden off of my shoulders. I know that the best way for me to make a difference in the world around me is to be a good person in my little part of the great big picture. Therefore, I choose to be happy in that little part of the great big picture.
  2. I can play the piano enough to help out at church, if really, really, needed. Granted, they do know that if the piano stops playing, keep singing, I’ll eventually catch up. This is an accomplishment I achieved when my husband purchased a keyboard while we were in Okinawa. Then, when we returned to the continental United States, I had my piano again. This is the same piano that I learned to play when I was in the 2nd grade. It is massively out of tune, and I mean massively. But, it works for me.
  3. I love to teach people how to feel better about themselves, whether its through wardrobing outfits or emotionally through developing positive habits. I can put together an outfit, I love working with separates and having fun mixing what maybe wasn’t real obvious! I love to pass that skill on to others.
  4. I am good at networking. I love to introduce people to each other to fulfill their needs. Once, after seeing the editors of Essence magazine present at an event as I spoke to them, they lamented that they just knew they weren’t going to be able to get to Graceland. I asked them how much time they had, and their response showed they had enough time to go through the mansion and surrounding areas, they just didn’t have the time to go through the line and wait for the busses. One quick phone call to the marketing person at Graceland (whom I had worked with through fashion shows), and the editors of Essence received a personal tour of property. They were so excited and grateful. That made me feel happy all the way to the core of my being!
  5. I can read to kids! I love to read to kids! I love to show the emotion, to change my voice for each character. I love to get them involved and ask them “What do you think is next?!” It’s so fun to draw children into the story, and, if possible, make them a part of the story! It’s so rewarding!

Courage to Like Yourself–Your Talents

Do we recognize our own talents? We think of talents as playing an instrument, singing, or athletes, or art, or writing, or acting. These are not the only talents people have.

Our talents are gifts from our Heavenly Father. We each have different interests which lead us to different talents. Our Father in Heaven has a work for each of us to do to assist Him in building His kingdom here on Earth. Sharing talents with others helps the person sharing and helps the person receiving.

I have friends that have amazing talents–some garden, some enjoy cleaning house, some can sew without a pattern. Those are obvious talents. But what about not so obvious talents? There are those that can consistently pray or read the scriptures, or those that know just when to give a hug or a phone call, there are those that have patience with those that try the patience of others, There are those who have skills to work happily with others and others who can work solo.

It does take many talents to just get through your day. Think about that for a minute. It is a talent to be organized in the morning when everyone is going in different directions. It is a talent to put together an outfit. It is a talent to be able to wake without an alarm, or to wake up happy with an alarm. It is a talent to put together a healthy meal. It is a talent to have a restful drive to work no matter what other drivers may do. It is a talent to be the one that smiles to uplift others throughout the day. Look at all those talents and the day has barely started!

So, list your obvious talents, those that other can see–

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Now, dig deeper–what are your other talents that isn’t obviously visible?

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Now–just because I only listed five, that was just to get you started. Keep going! List them in your journal–if you don’t have a journal, start one! What a perfect way to start a journal but to list your wonderful qualities! Don’t forget to write a couple of sentences on each talent.

Courage to Change What You Don’t Like About Yourself

OK, so, this is NOT to turn into a ‘so here are 100 things I hate about myself’ post. That’s easy for us.

Instead we are going to look at just ONE thing that you really want to change. And, NO PHYSICAL changes, this is just spiritual or personality. You cannot list things like – I want to be a concert violinist–or I want to be an Oscar winning actor–or I want to achieve world peace. NO. That’s not where we are going here.

This is for small, baby steps–like, I want to not procrastinate–I want to fix more meals at home–I want to set aside scripture reading time for me. Those are all achievable goals. We are not setting long term goals right now–we are also not setting subjective goals right now.

So, think hard about your day, and where improvement is needed. And now–write ONE THING DOWN. Yes, just one thing.

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And, you don’t have to tell anyone. Now, what is it that needs to happen to make that ONE thing happen? Let’s say you want time to read the scriptures.

  1. Set aside the time. Is evening the best? Or, morning before everyone is up? Do you need to give up watching one tv show a day? Find that time.
  2. Make yourself a chart to track your progress. We, as humans, like to see progress written down. It also doesn’t mean that when you miss a day, you start over. You simply skip that day (that is so that you can see how often you do skip, and maybe re-evaluate the time frame you set for yourself).
  3. Get an accountability partner, if that will help you. If you can chart your progress on your own, then you won’t need this step.
  4. Choose a reward, it can be simple as your favorite candy bar, or scoop of ice cream from a restaurant, or a full blown night out with your significant other! It’s up to you.
  5. Once you have accomplished this goal, and feel good about it…usually about three months is a good time frame. Yes, I know it only takes 21 days for something to become a habit, but we don’t want you to become discouraged because you set too much for yourself, too soon. So, at the end of the three months is when you can set a new goal.

Courage to Like Yourself Physically – My Answers

  1. My eyes.
  2. My long waist.
  3. My long fingers.
  4. My long arms.
  5. My shoe size.

My eyes are blue – for some reason that is supposed to be a beauty standard. I like the deep blue that they are, regardless of what ‘fashion dictates’. I even like that they are sensitive to the sun because I get to get cool sunglasses; and since I don’t like hot, sunny days, they give me an excuse to stay inside!

My long waist set me apart from the ‘normal’ fashion patterns, but not really. High fashion uses the longer waist line model, but off the rack uses the medium waist line length…it’s another no-win situation in the world of fashion. Long ago I realized I couldn’t do dresses because the waist line never fit. It was always up in my ribs! Then I realized my wardrobe could be so interesting because I had to do skirts and tops! I could mix and match and have lots of different outfits!

My long fingers reach an octave and two keys on the piano. I play the piano–not the best in the world, but I can play. And, my finger span on the keyboard was pretty cool! Octave chords were easy for me. When I began typing, it, too, was easier.

My long arms I used to really be irritated over because long sleeves never were long enough. Then I found out that higher end brands make longer sleeves. I discovered the brands that make perfect sleeves for those of us that are outside of the ‘normal’ fashion dictates. (But, again, the high fashion model has long arms and off the rack are medium arms, again, a no-win!!) Once I figured which brands to buy for perfect long sleeves, I became completely fine with my long arms!!

My shoe size is the only thing on me that is the ‘perfect’ fashion size! At least it used to be until shoes began to be made with not standard AT ALL! At least, that is what I have decided, because I wear anything from a 6 to a 7!! But, the ‘perfect’ size foot is the 6B. That is the size that designers decided that the shoe style looks just wonderful. So, my foot, at one time, was perfect!

So, what are your 5 things you like about yourself, physically?

Courage to Like Yourself

In this insane world of social media where we have instant information and unfortunately instant opportunities to tear people down. One’s opinion is instantly agreed with or chagrined or even massacred. Everything is up to scrutiny for people who already have a low opinion of themselves its devastating.

When we compare ourselves to others who post perfect plates of food while you are eating tuna casserole made with Kraft macaroni and cheese — there’s one little dent in your world.

When we see families smiling and having fun we look around at the loneliness of solitude living or a family scattered not wanting to interact with each other. Another dent in your world.

It goes on and on–any number of instances can little by little eat away at our world. So, how do we learn to like ourselves, and our little part of the world? We begin–just like anything else we do–with evaluation. First, what do you like about yourself, physically.

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Now take each of those things and write a few sentences about it. Stop right now, and do that. In fact, I’m not going any further today. But–report back and let us know what you discovered about yourself!