Courage to Change What You Don’t Like About Yourself

OK, so, this is NOT to turn into a ‘so here are 100 things I hate about myself’ post. That’s easy for us.

Instead we are going to look at just ONE thing that you really want to change. And, NO PHYSICAL changes, this is just spiritual or personality. You cannot list things like – I want to be a concert violinist–or I want to be an Oscar winning actor–or I want to achieve world peace. NO. That’s not where we are going here.

This is for small, baby steps–like, I want to not procrastinate–I want to fix more meals at home–I want to set aside scripture reading time for me. Those are all achievable goals. We are not setting long term goals right now–we are also not setting subjective goals right now.

So, think hard about your day, and where improvement is needed. And now–write ONE THING DOWN. Yes, just one thing.


And, you don’t have to tell anyone. Now, what is it that needs to happen to make that ONE thing happen? Let’s say you want time to read the scriptures.

  1. Set aside the time. Is evening the best? Or, morning before everyone is up? Do you need to give up watching one tv show a day? Find that time.
  2. Make yourself a chart to track your progress. We, as humans, like to see progress written down. It also doesn’t mean that when you miss a day, you start over. You simply skip that day (that is so that you can see how often you do skip, and maybe re-evaluate the time frame you set for yourself).
  3. Get an accountability partner, if that will help you. If you can chart your progress on your own, then you won’t need this step.
  4. Choose a reward, it can be simple as your favorite candy bar, or scoop of ice cream from a restaurant, or a full blown night out with your significant other! It’s up to you.
  5. Once you have accomplished this goal, and feel good about it…usually about three months is a good time frame. Yes, I know it only takes 21 days for something to become a habit, but we don’t want you to become discouraged because you set too much for yourself, too soon. So, at the end of the three months is when you can set a new goal.

Published by Carolyn Bendall

A fashion and image expert, presenting seminars, classes, and individual consultations. Monthly makeover column in the Commercial Appeal, hosts a radio show on fashion, beauty, image, and entertainment, writes a blog reviewing products with complete honesty, and trains image consultants from around the world.

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